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Friday, May 4, 2012
Another Chapter Closed with a Happy Ending
I am BACK =)!!
So, I have been meaning to write this post forever now, but just couldn't find the peace and quiet to do it. Having two kids run around, fighting with each-other is nearly impossible. Good thing I am a vampire and can get this out of the way in the night!
Those who have read my past posting about my adoption story will know the 411, if you haven't checked it out, PLEASE do...because none of this will make any sense!
Okay, so I am adopted. I was adopted when I was 4 or 5, I think. I had a GREAT child hood growing up and great parents! I was truly blessed. Never went without anything. Fast-forward years, in 2003 when I was about to graduate high school, my parents received a letter from the adoption agency we were adopted from (VA). The letter was from my sister and I's biological mother. In the letter she stated valuable information, such as my sister and I had 3 biological younger sisters who were also adopted. She wrote names. Fantasia, Mallory, and Lauren. That's really all I knew, oh and a location of Frederick, MD.
Growing up, I always felt like something was missing, like I wasn't complete. Not sure if all people who are adopted feel that way, or I was just extra. But...I knew I could locate my sisters if I just kept at it and tried. I started searching in 2003 for my sisters. I literally would friend request every Fantasia, Mallory, or Lauren that lived in the DMV area (DC, Maryland, and Virgina). Sounds crazy, but I did. Had no shame about it either. I kept coming onto dead ends. For years I continued searching on and off, I would get frustrated because nothing I was doing would provide any kind of leads.
Eventually November of 2011, I re-started the search. Destined to try one more time, after this and no leads, I was going to give up. This was it. I had no help, no faith, on the edge and was going to stop this entire search...until I decided to "Google" (Free Adoption Search) online. I randomly came across the first page and clicked, it asked me to leave some information about my adoption and who I was looking for as well as my info (contact info) and they would contact me back! I thought this was BOGUS. People pay lots of money to have someone locate biological family members. But, I was desperate and willing to give it a shot anyways! Within 20-30 minutes I received a e-mail from a angel named Cher Caldwell on yahoo. We began corresponding and she immediately began my search, still thought there was a catch to this whole process. She started hitting me with back to back e-mails of possible leads. We were up until the wee hours of the morning going back and forth...UNTIL...she sent an e-mail to me with 3 FB pages of 3 girls, named Fantasia Webb, Mallory Webb, and Lauren Webb. She proceeded to tell me that she thinks its them. At that moment when I saw their pictures, I literally just froze up. When you know something is true but you don't want to believe it because you have searched 8 years for them with nothing...I honestly knew it was them but just couldn't believe it. I was shaking, I was crying. I kept saying "Oh my God, Oh my God, Oh my God". I think I tried to phone my sister, Ilana at 3 something in the morning, I ended up FB'ing her. I was in COMPLETE shock! I really was. It took me a minute to calm down, because then...I realized that I was just looking at their page and I was yet friends with none of them. Who knows how they would take me messaging them, who knows if they even knew they were adopted, and who knew if they even knew that they had two other biological sisters? There was no telling. I was going into this blind.
I messaged the three of them, saying the exact same thing on Facebook. I didn't get immediate responses back, but I did receive replies within the same day! We all started messaging each other back, except for my one sister Mallory...whom I don't think she knew what was really going on. Messaging turned to phone calls. My sister Lauren actually came for New Years for a visit with her boyfriend! It was so smooth and natural, I felt like we have never missed a beat at all. =) I speak to my sisters regularly! I gained 3 new best-friends!!
This experience was truly amazing. I feel blessed. I really do. When I felt like giving up, God was right by my side pushing me to try one more time and he placed Cher Caldwell in my path as an angel. I am forever grateful to her, for helping me out free of charge. She spent her entire night/early morning helping me search. I didn't have to do anything besides give her information which I knew.
Anyone reading this, please please don't give up. Keep trying. I can also place you with the woman who helped me on Facebook. She is an amazing woman.
I have never believed more in God than I do now.
I will be doing an exclusive interview with Cher Caldwell, so look out for that =)
Remember, don't ever give up! Keep trying and keep searching. It may be a long, hard search like mine was for 8 years, but nothing in life that is worth it, is never easy! I can finally close this chapter in my life. I found my sisters. I am the oldest of 5 beautiful girls. Courtney, Ilana, Fantasia, Mallory, and Lauren! FINALLY this chapter is now closed!
Keep faith...
Xoxo,
Court
ME- (Born March 9th, 1985 in Winchester, VA)
Ilana- (Born June 16th, 1986 in Winchester, VA)
Fantasia- (Born September 25th, 1988 in Frederick, MD)
Mallory- (Born November 20th, 1989 in Frederick, MD)
Lauren- (Born March 20th, 1990 in Frederick, MD)
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Courtney, this is a beautiful revelation that I just stumbled upon. I was scrolling down my fb page (which I rarely do!) And said "wow...I've always wanted to blog, but don't have the guts"...lol...let me check it out...AWESOME! You brought tears to my eyes. I have 2 adopted sisters whom happen to be my biological cousins I can relate to this story because although I, myself , am not adopted, I witnessed what a hardship it was for my cousins. I could feel their pain and see that there was a missing piece to their puzzle! I hope your story inspires people of all ages to have the same courage and persistence you did. Great Job!
ReplyDeleteAwww, thanks love! I really hope that this helps someone out there who is or has been in the same situation and thought about giving up! I literally have been searching for my 3 sisters since 2003, with no help, no leads...I kept coming up on dead ends. But, you must keep trying. It was a hard process to go through, but very happy and blessed with the outcome! I have gained back my 3 sisters =)!!
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